diary of a mad black woman.

I am a very busy person. I work full time, go to school full time, and on top of that I'm trying to maintain a healthy relationship and still have time for family & friends. If you think I've forgotten you, I haven't. Like the stars, just because you don't see me EVERYday doesn't mean I'm not there. I am truly blessed and extremely appreciative for all that I have. And while there are new additions and blessings in my life, I cherish and very often miss the old ones.
Dec 10 '10

Hate to say it but

If we’re not on the same page then maybe its time for a new chapter…

Dec 8 '10

No Finals!

Lazy teachers make for happy students!(:  It’s the home stretch of the semester and I can smellllll winter break!  Loved this semester because for the most part teachers were all chill. PLUS, I had no math or science so my grades are stuhhhhraaaight A’s(:  So my english teacher told us from the get that we weren’t having a final, we’re just meeting on the last day of class to play a game for extra credit, sweeet! My comedy class there’s no final, just a simple multiple choice question test on the last day of class.  And yeah, a test on comedy is not hard at all. My values in American life class aka BOOK CLUB, I was supposed to write a final paper, but since she’s a grad student and just finished her thesis, we caught her on a good day and she told us we didn’t have to do it anymore(: AND that we don’t even have to come during the “final exam period.”  Its optional and all we’ll do is watch pixar shorts and it will be extra credit to show up. Soooo, that leavs Law and Society.  I’m already done with the multiple choice take home test, so all thats left is a 10-15 page paper due next friday by 3pm, and since I have no classes after THIS Friday, I think I’ll be able to get it done.  Who woulda thought that these classes that I was FORCED to choose during my shitty registration would turn out this well?  Hopefully next semester will work out just as good! (:

Ahhh, 2 more days!!!

Dec 7 '10

Discovery!

Just found a tumblr app on my phone! Havent been on this thaang in a minute! Maaybe i’ll come back…

:)

Jun 16 '10

Mom.

My mom had her second hip replacement operation today.  She had her first one just days before my 16th birthday and now her second one today, just days before my nineteenth.  Since she works at a school it makes the most sense for her to have the surgery as soon as summer starts so she’ll be ready to go back to school in August.  Logical? yes. Fair? No.  It’s ruining my life. It’s all I can think about. When I’m not at work or keeping busy, all I can do is think about my mom.  It hurts to see my mom in pain when she’s just walking a few steps.  She hasn’t been able to walk the dog, which she did almost every day &she loved doing, in almost a year.  Every time I go to my parents’ to visit and go in the kitchen to try and find some food, I always find a new medicine that my mom has to take.  The worst part is my mom just really doesn’t seem as happy as she used to be.  Here she is trying to stay positive  and when I hugged her yesterday and said, “I hope everything goes well tomorrow Mom.” She said, “Oh I’m sure it will be fine.”  When how could she NOT be scared?  And now I’ve even started crying writing about this because all I can think about is my mom sleeping alone in a hospital bed tonight.  And my Dad sleeping at home alone tonight.  I guess it’s because of how much closer I’ve gotten to my parents since I’ve moved out, I’m just so scared.  I think it’s really fucked up that my mom is only 48 years old and has had to have two major leg operations as if she’s a 90 year old woman.  Maybe I wrote this because we haven’t really talked about this big thing as a family.  Everyone is just trying to seem stronger than the others.  Her surgery went well today, tomorrow she is learning how to walk with a metal rod in her leg.  I hope that her recovery is quick and painless.  Please keep my mom in your prayers.  I don’t know what I would do with out her.

May 19 '10

What Love Means to 4-8 year olds

Stole this from my sister who stole it from someone else and so on.. Some are pretty cute!

Slow down for three minutes to read this. It is so worth it. Touching words from the mouth of babes.A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, ‘What does love mean?’
The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined See what you think:
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‘When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore.So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love..’.Rebecca- age 8___
‘When someone loves you,The way they say your name is different.You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.’.Billy - age 4___
‘Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.’.Karl - age 5
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‘Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.’.Chrissy - age 6___
‘Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.’.Terri - age 4
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‘Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.’.Danny - age 7
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‘Love is when you kiss all the time..Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more.My Mommy and Daddy are like that..They look gross when they kiss’.Emily - age 8
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‘Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.’.Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)
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‘If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,’.Nikka - age 6 (we need a few million more Nikka’s on this planet)
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‘Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.’.Noelle - age 7
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‘Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.’.Tommy - age 6
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‘During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.
He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore..’.Cindy - age 8
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‘My mommy loves me more than anybody You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night..’.Clare - age 6
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‘Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.’.Chris - age 7
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‘Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.’.Mary Ann - age 4
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‘I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.’.Lauren - age 4
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‘When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.’ (what an image).Karen - age 7
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‘Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross.’.Mark - age 6
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‘You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it..But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.’.Jessica - age 8
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And the final one
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The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman’s yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.
When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,’Nothing, I just helped him cry’
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Apr 19 '10

Time flies.

Hooooly Moly! it’s about to be 7 months this thursday since I became the happiest girl alive(:  I can’t belieeeeve it!  & School is done in like.. 30 days?  Minus the furloughs, minus the week of finals that I probably will have none because my teachers are almost more eager for summer than I am.  I survived (so far) my first year of college& living alone.. well.. not really alone anymore(:  This is gonna be a great summer, don’t know if I can say the best ‘cause last summer is one tough act to follow!  But with another aspect like Roland added to my life, I think it will definitely come close(;  Come to think of it! I have never had a boyfriend in the summer!?  This is gonna be great!  Up Late! Icecream! Roadtrips! Giants Games! Beach! Swimming! Moving into a HOUSE together! Sleeeping in! MY BIRTHDAY!! Oh man.. & plus, the pact me&Ro made with chief today, Ahhh! Spending the summer with my very best friend and my boyfriend? wtf else could i ask for?! I hope this last month or so of school doesn’t drag on like it did in highschool! haaha Odds are it won’t since May’s gonna be a craaazy busy month!  work, work, work this week.  Then celebrating 7 with FREE lower box seats+ parking pass & snuggies at our FIRST Giant’s game together(: Yay! So excited! okaay, hopefully I blog more but as a full time student with 2 part time jobs, shit gets tough. HAHA. seeee ya layyyta, about to curl up on the couch with my bf& watch Julie& Julia with some home made kettle corn(: I know right, cute.. his idea. Life is great(:

Mar 10 '10

I can’t believe today I had a heart to heart with a bum

“…Weather the storm niecey, I know how much he loves you.”- Uncle AJ, my part time car watcher &full time therapist.

Feb 28 '10

Fairytale.

I’ve been meaning to blog about Valentine’s Day for a while now for 3 reasons.  1) It was really cute this year. 2) I don’t wanna annoy anyone with my gushy love stories so i’ll do it here & 3) Roland secretly reads my blogs & keeps asking when I’m gonna write this one. HAHA.

In the eighth grade I was dumped on Valentine’s Day, which is depressing, but more than that, besides the point. haha I have FOREVER hated this day cause i was ALWAYS the loser with out a valentine, and the times I DID have one it never benefitted me in any positive way or form.  Just another day on the calendar, until this year.

How FUCKING lame is it that I had to go with my family 200+ miles away from my boyfriend, in the middle of no where, with NO cell service on president’s weekend, aka valentine’s day. THE ONE TIME THAT I ACTUALLY HAVE A LEGIT VALENTINE.  He made me feel a little better by saying that Valentine’s day was just a stupid holiday created by Hallmark and that we’d celebrate as soon as I got home.

Got home from the snow trip around 5pm on Feb. 15, OUR “Valentine’s Day.”  He came to my parents, talked to his bestfriend (aka my dad) haha loaded my bags in his car and we were off. I was sooo happy to see him cause i hadn’t been able to text or talk to him for the 3 whole days that I was exiled! He was dressed super cute, had a fresh haircut and a clean line up, but the give away was that he SHAVED.  He barely ever shaves his manly face unless there’s something going on (which i hate>:o) .. so i knew there was something going on!  haha On the way back to the apartment we talked about where we would go eat out for dinner.. We got to our place, and he said to leave everything in the car.. hmm.. weird? but i wasn’t really trippen cause that stuff was HEAVY.  we get up to the apt. and he says wait here.. okay.. somethings really up, but i couldn’t stop smiling.

He opens the door and hands me a single rose, with that BIG FAT smile on his face that i LOVE.  There’s some soft music playing, a CLEAN house! and a candlelit table with a vase of BEAUTIFUL flowers!  I could not believe that I, the girl with the worst luck in guys, was given something like this.  He had me sit down at the table and after I came out of shock I realized the christmas tree was down!  The thing I had been putting off had finally got done! and I didn’t have to lift a finger! He goes in the kitchen with my plate and comes back to me with MY FAVORITE!  Fettucini Chicken Alfredo from Bucca di beppo! (:  I was a happpy little girl.  And this fool tried to trick me on the way home asking “where should we eat later?” pshhh. haha We ate our romantic dinner together and talked about our weekends.  I told him how happy he’s made me and he told me that he love me!(:  That’s when i REALLY felt like it was a dream! Haha I said it back and could not keep this fat ass smile I had off my face! & I cried cause i’m such a loser but also cause no one’s ever told me that! haha Then we walked up to century for the rest of our date(:We snuck in coldstone and watched Valentine’s Day which was SO CUTE! then walked home together.  I love the way that even the simplest stuff like taking a walk together and acting dumb can make us so happy.  We started getting ready for bed and he goes, Oh! your present! I got you something! I said What?! you got me that dinner! and did all this cute stuff! i don’t want anything.  He takes it out of its hiding spot and gives it to me.  Tell my why i unwrappped a CUTE ASS Coach purse that matches my Coach shoes!  I could not believe it.  How do you FORGET that you got someone a Coach purse?! he could have only done the dinner! or the movie! or the purse! But he did all that and more which is why I really think I might be the happiest luckiest girl in the world.

We got ready for bed, and still in disbelief I thanked him for everrrything he did.  He said, “I can’t wait to tell my kids about the day I fell in love with their mom,” kissed me on the forehead, and I fell asleep in his arms.  I am truly living a fairytale and I thank God every day for being so blessed.  (And since I know you’re secretly reading this) Thank you Roland, for the most memorable “Valentine’s day” I’ll ever have.. I love you(:

Feb 11 '10

Roots.

I know that I’ve been doing my own thing for a while now, new environments, new people, new adjustments.  Simply caught up with all the new things going on, the sense of being independent, and even falling for the guy of my dreams.  Maybe I’m wrong for the way I’ve been living and my answer to that is that I wasn’t at all trying to leave the past or the people in it.  As happy as I am with my life right now I can’t say I don’t miss the old days.  Being on the baseball field today with Anna, Coach & the boys brought back SO many good memories of the seasons we had there.  I wanna relive it and score keep again but part of me wonders if it will still be the same. Maybe its just time to grow up.  Whatever I do, where ever I go, I don’t want to lose the few people that I NEED in my life and I need to be careful that I don’t. I have one LEGIT best friend who stood by me through it all & I’m more than thankful for that, chief.

Seasons change and people grow.  The trees turn different colors and eventually the leaves will fall off for a while until the time is right for them to come back.  People go away for a while, but just like trees, they will never, ever leave their roots.. And in my case.. I never want to.

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Jan 26 '10

I suddenly realize

josephjestoni:

that Valentines day is coming up.Now basically i have two options. First option i could do absolutely nothing about it maybe hopefully watch Valentines day and Warfare at night. But that is pretty lame except the Warfare at night. Option two I basically shoot for the stars and just tell this certain someone that I’ve had a thing for them since like way back when.She has always been a good friend of mine but we haven’t really talk in the longest time. Which is weird cause I have been thinkin about her alot lately. Now it would be weird only cause i haven’t spoken to her in awhile. So basically What i’m asking my fellow followers is what do you think? Just say fuck it only live once tell her! or DUDE YOUR FUCKING SAD KEEP IT TO YOURSELF. Any opinions my followers?

A wise man once said, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” (; Do it!

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Jan 14 '10

2010

i have no idea why i haven’t blogged lately. busy i guess? not really.  haha It’s a new year! I miss 2009 already. =(  What a great year it was.  Being a senior, graduating, turning 18, getting a tattoo, getting my license, getting a car, moving out, starting college and meeting the guy of my dreams to say the least.  It has really hit me that I’m growing up and I’ve probably changed a little but I don’t really mind it at all.  I am more than happy with where my life is at right now and I can only hope that 2010 will be half as good to me as 2009, but i guess we’ll just have to wait and see.  (:  Goodnight!

Dec 15 '09

Roland Maxie.

The good boy i need, and the bad boy i want. <3 HAHA.

falling harder everyday..

Oct 31 '09

Party Warehouse volunteer.

Happy Halloween everyone!  So as you may or may not know i’ve worked at the party warehouse for some time now.  This is my 3rd halloween having worked in the store.  I’m sure any and all of my co-workers will agree with me in saying that working there makes you HATE halloween.  Between endless delivery, impatient, indecisive customers, tedious never ending cleaning up after people in the isles.  It’s just WAY too hectic and we all hate it.  Sales have been way down this year in comparison to last year, most likely due to this shit hole economy but not according to Bob & Donna, Party Warehouse owners.  Since OUR sales are down and it’s “OUR fault”, we’ve been staying open one hour later every night during the month of October (as if that’s really made any difference) meaning that on school nights the store closes at 9, by the time we get the last customers out of the store it can be as late as 9:15, finish counting the register by 9:30 or so and after closing up the store I rarely get home before 10. Add about 15 minutes to that if any retards are closing.  

ANYWAY.  This week has been crazy.  As much as we hate halloween, its been a little crazy in a fun way.  We’ve had fun dressing up as whatever the hell we wanna be, and talking shit about annoying ass customers with attitude who THINK they look cuter in their costumes than they really do =P  Our broke asses have been pleased to work 8-12 hour shifts a day and don’t hesitate when overtime is an option because FOR ONCE party warehouse is not stingy with their money. YESTERDAY was madness.  I started work at 1:45 pm, and on top of my usual “not wanting to be at work” attitude was my being DEAD tired and lightweight hungover from the San Jose costume party I went to the night before AND a ton of annoying customers and questions; I was NOT a happy camper.  At least not until around 6pm..

Roland’s parents dropped him off at the store because they needed to use his car for the night.  I was so happy to see him& it was a relief being able to talk to someone who wasn’t annoyingly SERIOUSLY confused that there were NO COSTUMES LEFT THE DAY BEFORE HALLOWEEN. NO FUCKIN SHIT YOU OBLIVIOUS PROCRASTINATORS.. WHAT’D YOU EXPECT? haha but that’s besides the point.  

By that time we were about 2 hours behind in lunches and I was starving.  Roland hung out in the store for a little bit and I introduced him to my co-workers who have heard SO much about him haha.  Finally it was my turn, we walked over to Chipotle and I was still in costume because i basically was so hungry I didn’t give a fuck about anything, HAH!  So we ate that outside and had a nice little romantic mexican dinner and before I knew it my 30 minutes was up=(

He walked me back to work, and as I started to help customers I noticed he was still in the store.  I was glad.  10, 15, 20 minutes passed by.. still there.  ”Babe! you can leave! you don’t have to wait for me!”  He said that it was okay and that he loved being in the store cause there was so much to look at and besides he really had no where else to go, so he stayed.  A few more minutes passed by and he comes and finds me and lets me know that a family wants to see/try on a mask thats hanging up on the wall.  I grabbed the ladder to help them and laughed because it was weird (in a good way) having him at work with me and telling ME who to help.  He held the ladder for me and my co-workers poked fun at me because they’ve never really had the chance to embarrass me when a boys around.  ”That’s soooo cute!” Hahaha.  

As he hung around, Maryann, a girl I worked with jokingly said, “Give him a costume, let him help!”  Roland jumped at the opportunity by throwing on a bat man mask and asking everyone in sight if they needed help.  He was getting pretty into it and at some points it seemed that he was working harder than all of us REAL workers put together.  We were completely short staffed, the ratio of customers to employees was about a billion to one, so his help was greatly appreciated by all of us.  He would come running up to me asking me the things that he didn’t know how to answer himself then raced back to the customers to let them know.  Some of the newer employees were like who the hell is this random guy helping people?  So then I introduced them too.  Haha.  He started pulling costumes for people, he caught on INSTANTLY and even helped people in Tagolog.  ”Mmm, and he’s BILINGUAL too?!” Karen said. HAHAHA. That’s my boy!  It was so sweet of him to help us/me out since he saw how swamped we were(=  And when i was MID-SENTENCE thanking him, and telling him how cute it was that he had stayed there, he cut me off and said HOLD ON BABE, and turned around to a customer to pull a costume for them -_- hahah I guess I can’t be mad at that.  Everyone thought it was hilarious.  

9 o’clock rolls around and we FINALLY get the last customers out of the store.  Some workers go upstairs to count the drawers and the rest of us were downstairs cleaning the war zone that was once a store.  Roland was still there.  Putting things back where they belong and even sweeping! haha  Around 9:15 he left to get my car from the parking garage and move it to the front so I wouldn’t have to walk far.   As soon as he left I got bombarded with questions and comments from the people I worked with.  ”Where’d you meet him? How long has it been? He’s so sweet! You guys are cute!”  The all approved of him for sure, and I thought to myself, geeeez, every where I take this guy, the people i introduce him to (sometimes he even introduces himself) ALWAYS like him. I’m so glad(=

I stopped cleaning around 930 and went upstairs to help the more senior staff count the overwhelming amount of cash & charge slips.  As I got ready to leave they all told me to thank Roland again for his help and enthusiasm.  We all laughed as we talked about the funny stories of him helping different customers.  I said bye and wished them all a Happy Halloween since I wouldn’t see them till afterward.  They did the same and then Connie, one of my managers said, “Hold on to this one Allison, he’s a really good guy, I like him.”  I smiled and said “I know, I will.  I really like him too.”

Thank you for all your help Roland(=  Reason # 7362837193470 why I like you: you do things that you don’t have to, just to make my life easier. MWAHH!

Oct 31 '09

Sometimes i think the stuff I do, or stuff I like to do is kinda weird, or corny.  & I finally found someone who not only DOESN’T CARE that the stuff I do is weird or corny but actually does it with me and smiles about it.  Our project this week was pumpkin carving(= & For the record I’m falllin’ prettty hard for Roland Maxie. 22 <3

Oct 22 '09

4 day weekend.

and it couldn’t have come at a better time(: Get to see Viv! & Spend time with my whole fam who I haven’t seen in a whileee=/ & Happy 22nd! (= haha its our day, 22- just cause. i’ll leave it at that.